Me Ke Sa Amare Yin Watsi Da Kwalliya Idan Sun Kwana Biyu A Gidan Miji?
Published: 27th, April 2025 GMT
Sunana Fatimah Zahra Mazadu Daga Jihar Gomben Nigeria:
Ba abun da ke janyo haka sai sakaci da rashin wayo, ta wani fannin kuma aljihu da halin maza dan suma suna nan a gari, za ka ga wata ta birgeka amma taka ta gida ka gagara kashe mata dan tayi kyau, sannan ba yadda za a yi kina kara girma kina komawa jeji, ai a lokacin da ki ka dade da namiji a lokacin ne ya kamata ki kara wanka akan wanda ki ke dan maida hankalinsa kacokam a kanki, tsabta naki kwalliya naki jan hankali naki.
Sunana Aminu Adamu Malam Maduri A Jihar Jigawa:
To magana ta gaskiya rashin ilimin zaman aure ne ke jawo haka, domin yin tsafta ko kwalliya ga matar aure yana matukar kara kauna da soyayya a tsakaninta da mijin ta, kuma zai taimaka wajen ta mallake shi gabadaya ya daina hangen wata mace sai ita kadai. To farko dai hakan yana jawo ake samun sabani tsakanin macen da mijin ta a lokuta da dama wanda hakan ka’iya kawo tabarbarewar dangantaka a zamansu na aure, kuma hakan yana iya zama silar mijin nata ya karo mata abokiyar zama ko kishiya koda kuwa ba shi da niyyar kara aure domin haka ne kadai zai zama mafita a gare shi. To shawara a nan ita ce ya kamata dai mata su sani tsafta daya ce daga cikin dabaru na mallake miji ba wai sai an hada da guru ko laya ba, kuma tsafta tana kara dankon soyayya da kauna a tsakanin ma’aurata, kuma uwa uba tsafta wani yanki ne na Imani wanda take taimakawa wajen samun cikakken addini.
Sunana Aisha T. Bello Jihar Kaduna:
Gaskiya ina jin haushin irin wanan matan gaskiya, na taba yi wa wata magana kan haka sai ta ce mani ai ni kwalliya ta yara ce wai ta barwa yara kuma ita da kanta ta fada mun mijinta na son kwalliya. Matsalar shi ne kawai zai kara aure kuma gun karan auren sai ki ga mai kwalliya. Shawara ta a nan ga masu irin wanan hali shi ne; kwalliya ba a tsufa da kwalliya yana bada girma sosai za ki ga ana kai ki inda baki kai ba kuma yana bada Personality.
Sunana Sadi Dauda Baturiya Jihar Jigawa:
Hakika wannan al’ada tana faruwa da ma’auratan wannan zamani na mu, kuma yin hakan yana da alaka da kiwa wato (ganda). Babu shakka yawaitar mutuwar aure a wannan zamanin yana da kazanta da sauran matsaloli makamantansu. Gaskiyar magana shawara ta ga matan wannan zamanin musamman sabbin aure su cire irin wannan tunanin na kazanta bayan tsafta domin kuwa rashin yin tsafta yana daga cikin abin da yake rage karfin soyayya tsakanin ma’aura
Allah ya kawo mana karshen matsalolin mutuwar aure a cikin al’ummar mu amin.
Sunana Fatima Nura Kila Jihar Jigawa:
Wasu laifin mazan ne wasu kuma na matan, wasu mazan daga an yi aure an dau wasu watanni ba zai iya siyan kayan kwalliyar da za ta yi ya ganta tsaf ba, wani kuma ko kudin sabulu bai badawa a nan kuma hankalin mace zai karkata a nan ta ga ita ba ta kwalliyar take ba, domin kudin abun kwalliyar da za ta siya ma babu. Yana haifar da matsaloli masu tarin yawa, a wannnan lokacin wani a nan yake ganin wata matar a waje ta birge shi tunda matar sa ba ta yin kwalliyar, sannnan ya kan rage shakuwa a tsakanin ma’aurata. Ya kamata mu mata mu dage koda mazajen mu basu yi mana ba mu, mu yi da kudin mu domin hakan ba karamar kima yake karawa ba a idon miji, domin kwalliya wata aba ce da ta ke karawa mata kyau, wadanda suke yi kuma su daina su rika yin kwalliya hakan zai kara masu shakuwa a tsakaninsu.
Sunana Anas Bin Malik Achilafia Yankwashi A Jihar Jigawa:
Wato idan muka kalli yadda ake rayuwa kafin aure da kuma bayan aure za mu fahimci cewa su matan suna mayar da kansu haka ne a dalilin ganin cewa an riga da an zama abu daya, ko da kwalliya ko babu hakan ba zai sa mijin ya kosa ba, tun da su mazajen ne kusan basa yabawa matan idan suka yi kwalliya, ko ado, sabanin kafin aure kusan kullum a cikin samun yabon namiji ta ke. Batun matsaloli kuwa akwai su; ta bangaren mace hakan yana mayar da ita koma-baya ta fuskar matsayinta a wurin miji, da kuma jawo mata kaskanci, da rashin wadata ta da kayan kwalliya, tunda miji ya ga ta daina yi. Ta bangaren miji kuma rashin yin kwalliyan yana sakawa ya ringa hange, ko gane-ganen wasu matan a waje, da suke cancara kwalliya abinsu. Ko da ba shi da niyyar kara aure hakan zai iya jan hankalinsa. Ina jan hankalin mata tare da basu shawara da su cigaba da yin ado da kwalliya ga mazajensu, ba sai idan za a fita ba, misali: kai tsaye kin san lokacin da mijinki yake dawowa gida ko da kuwa dare ne, ki saka kayanki masu kyau, ki chaba kwalliya, ki fesa turarenki mai kamshi, mijin na shigowa gida ya ganki a haka wallahi sai ya ji dadi a ransa, kuma za a cimma abubuwa da yawa daga hakan. Ina fatan a samu wata bayan karanta wannan bayani nawa ta gwada wannan siddabarun za ta sha mamaki.
Sunana Naja’atu Baffa Jihar Kaduna:
Wataran abin da yake janyo hakan ba komai bane face yawan aikace-aikace na gida na iya hana mace yin kwalliya da sauransu, kuma jigon wannan aikace-aikacen yara ne, saboda an mikawa ita wannan matar dafa musu abincin da za su ci, idan kananun yara ne yi musu wanka da shirya su, gyara ko’ina na gidan da dai sauransu, idan ta yi wankan ba lallai ta tsaya yin ado ba. Wataran kuma al’ada ce ke canja ra’ayin mace ko bada son ranta ba kamar hana mace kwalliyya da shiga mai kyau yayin da ta kai wadansu ‘yan shekaru. Matsalolin da hakan ya ke haifarwa su ne; hakan zai bi daga ‘ya’yayensu har zuwa ga jikokinsu a matsayin abin da ya dace, rashin girmamawa da kaskanci a wajen mazajensu da ma wadanda su ke mu’amala tare da su. Shawarar da zan bawa mata masu irin wannan tunanin ita ce; su zauna da mijinsu su tattauna wajen shawo kan matsalar idan aiki ne yayi mata yawa da sauransu, sannan akwai shirye-shiryen da ake yi na yanar gizo-gizo da dama na wayar da kan mata su ma su rinka sauraren shi.
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Dantsoho Ya Kaddamar Da Aikin Tsaftace Tashar Jirgi Ta Tin-Can Island
“Ya zamar mana wajbi, mu kulla wannan hadakar, musamman domoin mu tabbatar da cewa, mun tsaftace tsarin,” Inji Dantsoho.
Ya kara da cewa, wannan aikin, ba wai kawai za kara habaka samar da kariya da kuma kara ingnata tsaro bane, har da kuma bayar da gagarumar gudunmawa, wajen kara ciyar da tattalin arzikin kasar nan gaba.
A cewar Shugaban, cunkoson da ake samu a Tashar ta Tin Can Island na ci gaba da haifar da jinkiri da rashin gudanar da ayyuka yadda suka kamata da kuma rage gudanar da hada-hadar kasuwanci, yadda ta kamata, wanda kuma hakan, ke janyowa kara habaka tattalin arzikin kasar.
Dantsoho wanda Babban Janar Manaja na sashen kula da tsaro a Hukumar ta NPA Mista Anthony Edosomwan ya wakilce shi a wajen kaddamar da aikin ya bayyana cewa, za a gudanar da aikin ne, zuwa kwana uku, musamman domin a samu nasarar gudanar da aikin.
Shugaban ya kara da cewa, sashen kula da tsaro na Hukumar ya wallafa a kafafen yada labarai, kan sanarwar wayar da kan jama’a kan batun mahimmancin, tsaftace Tashar ta Tin Can Island.
“Wannan wani mataki ne, da aka samu goyon bayan masu ruwa da tsaki ciki har da masu yin amfani da Tashar da ‘yan kasuwa da kuma sauran alummar da ke a kusa da yankin”, A cewar Dantsoho.
Shugaban ya ci gaba da cewa, Hukumar ta NPA ba za ta yi kasa a guiwa, wajen kara mayar da hankali da kuma zagewa, domin ta samu cin nasara wajen tabbatar da tsaftace muhalli da kuma samar da kyakyawan yanayi, a daukacin Tashoshin Jiragen Ruwan Kasar ba.
“Yanayi na samun gurbatacciyar Iska da kutsen da ake yiwa Tashoshin Jiragen Ruwan Kasar, abu ne da Hukumar ta NPA, ba za ta rungume hannu ta bari ba, ” Inji Dantsoho.
“Wannan aikin na tsafrace Tashar ba wai kawai na da alfanu ga ayyukan da ake gudanarwa a Tashoshin Jiragen Ruwan Kasar bane, hatta alumomin da suke daura da Tashoshin, suma zai yi masu alfanu,“ A cewar Shuaban .
Shuaban ya kara da cewa, sashen kula da tsaro na Hukumar ta NPA da faro shi a wannan shekarar ta 2025, na daga cikin shiryae-shiryen rage cunkoso da kuma samar da saukin gudanar da ayyuka, Hukumar ta NPA, wanda hakan zai taimaka matuka wajen samar da kyakywar makoma ga Tashoshin Jiragen Ruwa, da ke a daukacin kasar nan.
A cewar Shugaban, wannan hadakar da sauran jami’an tsaro da kuma yin gangamin na wayar da kan alumma, Hukumar na bukatar goyon bayan alumma, dominn ta samu nasarar, aikin da ta sanya a gaba,
“A saboda haka, Mahukuntan Hukumar ta NPA, na bukatar goyon baya da hadin kan jama’a musamman domin a samar da kyakyawan yanin da ya dace a Tashar Jirgin Ruwan,” A cewar Shugaban.
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